The details of a man’s internal struggle over whether or not to take care of his younger sister were revealed in a post that was twice removed from Reddit.
The OP wanted to help his wife out as much as he could, but she had other ideas.
The OP and his wife had been married for two years when the OP’s father passed suddenly, leaving his sister without anyone to care for her.
Because his sister is so much younger than him, the OP acts more like a parent than an older brother.
The OP’s younger sister was eleven years old when their father left for his trip.
The OP and his wife did not have any children and had no plans to start a family anytime soon. Since they didn’t want children, this was a problem.
After suffering a devastating loss, the OP and his loved ones were presented with difficult decisions. Unfortunately, the decisions we made led to friction that we hadn’t bargained for. According to the OP:
“My father passed away from pancreatic cancer. There are 2 options for my sister: either I take her in or my uncle [dad’s brother]. So we asked her who she wanted, and she chose me. Here is the problem: My wife and I decided that we did not want kids.”
This user thinks that the OP and his wife should have divorced because his sister would have noticed any hostility against her if she had stayed in the household.
Another person who does not have children said that it would have been a deal breaker for them as well.
Some people backed the OP’s wife, saying she knew her limits and couldn’t handle caring for a child going through such extreme trauma.
Someone else chimed in and said that the OP’s wife would be forced into the position of mother if she helped raise his sister even if she didn’t want to.
Another poster said that they would normally side with the wife, but in this case they couldn’t since they felt the wife had been unfair to the OP and his sister by making the accusation that he preferred her to her.
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